BHMB|Depression in a Black Household|

Depression is a dark place.

Anyone who has ever dealt with it knows just how dark it can become.

They know how lonely it feels.

They know how without help or someone in your corner it will consume you. -ebonyB

Mental issues in a black household is a topic that most black parents take as a joke. They feel as if the child has nothing to be depressed about and that’s were a lot of parents go wrong. You have to keep in mind that your child will experience a lot of things outside of the home. Your child will encounter a lot of people outside of the home and if we’re being completely honest, sometimes the depression comes from things that are happening inside of the home.

BLACK TOXIC HOUSEHOLDS exist. Yelling at your kids constantly, cursing your kids out, calling your kids out of their names, unnecessary beatings, and pressuring them to do things that they don’t want to do can all lead to depression.

I honestly feel like there is more to raising a child than keeping a roof over their heads and food. Most black parents favorite line is “I keep a roof over your head and food in your stomach, so you shouldn’t have shit to be depressed about.”   That’s appreciated but what about teaching the child to love themselves? What about making the child feel like they can come and talk to you when things in the world are getting to them?

You tell a black parent you’re depressed, and they go tell the rest of the family and now everybody laughing at you at the cookout like its a joke.

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Think about how that would make a person dealing with depression feel. Now the person is feeling even worse because they feel as if they can’t go to their own parents for help without being judged and talked about. That's when things like cutting themselves or using drugs start.

Growing up, my dad would always tell us that we could come and talk to him. He also gave us the option to voice our opinions when we disagreed with things. He would tell it’s a difference in being disrespectful and voicing your opinions about something that you disagree with. The most important thing a parent can do is make sure their child knows that if they can’t talk to anyone else they can talk to them.

The suicide rate in black children, teens, and young adults has been through the roof over the last couple of years and that’s a problem people. That’s why it’s important to be there for your children or family members when you see them crying out for help. The laughing, the telling them that they’re overreacting, and the calling Tee Shirley nem has to stop. Help them. Talk to them. Get them professional help if needed because there is nothing wrong with going to see a therapist.

When family members have the courage to open up about their depression stop telling them, ‘’oh just pray about it, you’ll be fine.” I’ve seen so many young adults that’s dealing with depression say that they just stopped trying to talk to their parents or other family members because all they would get is “just pray about it” as a response. If you can’t find the encouraging words or can’t offer them help please refer them to a therapist or somebody that can help.  Just giving them the “everything will be alright” phrase isn't enough to help them out of that dark place.

Mental health is important. A lot of people won’t understand how important it is and the effect it can have until it’s too late. We must change that.

Everyone deserves to feel valuable.

Everyone deserves to feel like they have a purpose.

If anyone out there needs someone to talk to, feel free to contact me! You don’t have to go through anything alone.

                                                                                                                                                -eb