| Relationship Talk |

A well requested topic

Let me start off by these are my opinions, my experiences, and the way I view relationships. Different strokes for different folks!

The Now

-Now I feel like our generation worry too much about relationships or finding the right person. If you have someone cool. If you don’t have anyone that’s also cool because it’ll come. There’s no point in rushing it. There’s no point in spending all your time looking. I know you may hear this a lot and I hate to say it but sometimes you must become comfortable with being alone. I’m 21 and anyone that’s 21 or 21+ knows how this point in life gets. If you meet somebody at this age don’t expect everything to be perfect like in the movies because we are not finished products just yet. I’m not saying let your significant other cheat or treat you wrong because we’re still young. What I mean is I have my goals and you have your goals. If you’re stopping my growth or causing me extra stress then I don’t need it. I need peace and if you can’t be my peace then we can’t be in this relationship.

Back Then

……Ohhhhhhh back then! I went through the whole being stuck on stupid phase in high school and I’m glad I learned my lesson early! When I say I was deep in lust I was DEEP. I would forgive and forgive and forgive. Running back time after time! You couldn’t tell me anything! I look back now and laugh because a lot of us get caught up in lust and go so hard for it at such a young age. I learned that the only thing that will make a guy act right is THE GUY WANTING TO ACT RIGHT. If it’s any people in high school reading this that's dealing with anything toxic don’t waste your time. In a few years, you’ll understand why! By the time I got to college I was “quick to cut a nigga off so don’t get comfortable”.  My daddy always told me when the right one come around you’ll know.

My Advice

We’re at the “if you know better you do better stage”.  If it’s toxic let it go. If you are not happy it’s not worth it. Imagine being in a relationship with someone you feel the need to constantly watch. See how stressful that sound? You CAN NOT change a boy into a man. I read somewhere that a boy will only do enough to keep you around. He’ll treat you like shit and once he realizes you got one foot out the door he’ll do something sweet so you can put it back in the door. Be careful of that type.

Never let time be the reason you stay in a toxic relationship. There’s no point in watering a dead plant. Would you rather leave and deal with the healing now or stick around and waste more of your life? You must love yourself enough to know that you deserve BETTER. Time is something you can’t get back.  There's no point in getting mad at your family or your friends for telling you the truth. I feel like a lot of young women want people that will encourage them to be naive and keep getting hurt. They wouldn't be much of friend if they didn't have your best interest at heart.  I was always told when the love is real it won’t hurt.

Don’t risk your happiness for a guy you’re not even married to. No matter how hard it is to let go you’ll get through it. You’ll learn. You’ll work on yourself. You’ll meet the right guy that will treat you like the queen you are. He will love you exactly How you’re supposed to be loved.

& It’ll feel good.

So until then don't stress about it. I'm pretty sure we've all been there at some point. That's the beautiful thing about sisterhood, we go through it and somewhere down the line we help someone get through it.

                                                                                                                                -eb